Yeah,that is the Dark Mark from Harry Potter.Slytherin for the win!
Now,back to the topic at hand !
"Communication" In Relationships.
This would be a more personal post in relation to the other 2 previous postings.I figure ,with a topic like that,it would be entirely impossible(in my humble opinion) to find a news article that relates to it.(or maybe I am just lazy =P).I shall open it up with a quote which has absolutely nothing to do with anything.Why?
Because I can. =D
Because I can. =D
There's one sad truth in life I've found
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox
I take a very qualitative approach when defining my choice of interpersonal communication.I have a very unique relationship certain people and I communicate differently with a certain group of people.I am usually the quite guy but personally my close friends think I talk too much and I am very ,very sarcastic.Almost too sarcastic for many people out there to handle it as a joke.
I find it hard to relate to many people out there,more so with the younger people in my classes especially.The cultural and socio difference is vast.Not that I do not want to communicate,I have no idea what the hell to talk about.My interest and psychological state is pretty screwed as opposed to most normal young adult/teen out there.Sometimes ,I intimidate people.
Interestingly,when it comes to face to face communication in private,thats is where I tend to be a little more matured as opposed to being a group,where I end up annoying people for some strange reason .
Maybe its a dyadic consciousness,a feeling of being "whole" with the other person and being more intimate and private with their emotions and thoughts.In a group,I sometimes tend to ignore the individual and instead focus on the collective state of being.And that ,"collective" state usually ends up being rampant chaos for some reason....and talking too much.
When it comes engagement,physical appearance does play its part but hear me out on this,I got my own weird taste as in whats presentable or not.Sure,I might see a girl as being very very very attractive to most guys,but it does absolutely nothing to me.For some bizarre reason,I can't stand girls who overly dress in the most ridiculous colors imaginable to humankind.
I tend to gravitate my conversations with people who have similar interest as myself.That is the only way I can guarantee striking up a sensible conversation with someone else without making myself an idiot or trying too hard for attention.Which, brings me to the question at hand.
When starting a conversation with someone;
Do you tend to force an entirely new topic on them,hoping for some sort of response ?
Or
Do you prefer to keep quite and hope the other person thinks of something interesting to talk about before you do?
Or
Are you psychic and for some bizarre reason,know exactly what to talk about almost all the time ?
In my case,I prefer to shut up and listen.I like listening.I like observing people and then drawing key topics for communication with them.I will then sort these topics into an order of importance before deciding if the person, whom I will be communicating shortly with,has any interest whatsoever in listening to my dribble about god know what.
Most of the time,I can't think of anything.As much as I like a good nice conversion,I prefer not to talk about redundant shit that nobody will take notice of and making an idiot out of myself.
Or maybe I am in denial and I am hopelessly a very dull and boring person who hates social interaction and wants to dance to Britney Spears naked while stabbing myself with a very blunt toothpick screaming, "Ooh Laa Laa".
Epic Fail.
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox
I take a very qualitative approach when defining my choice of interpersonal communication.I have a very unique relationship certain people and I communicate differently with a certain group of people.I am usually the quite guy but personally my close friends think I talk too much and I am very ,very sarcastic.Almost too sarcastic for many people out there to handle it as a joke.
I find it hard to relate to many people out there,more so with the younger people in my classes especially.The cultural and socio difference is vast.Not that I do not want to communicate,I have no idea what the hell to talk about.My interest and psychological state is pretty screwed as opposed to most normal young adult/teen out there.Sometimes ,I intimidate people.
Interestingly,when it comes to face to face communication in private,thats is where I tend to be a little more matured as opposed to being a group,where I end up annoying people for some strange reason .
Maybe its a dyadic consciousness,a feeling of being "whole" with the other person and being more intimate and private with their emotions and thoughts.In a group,I sometimes tend to ignore the individual and instead focus on the collective state of being.And that ,"collective" state usually ends up being rampant chaos for some reason....and talking too much.
When it comes engagement,physical appearance does play its part but hear me out on this,I got my own weird taste as in whats presentable or not.Sure,I might see a girl as being very very very attractive to most guys,but it does absolutely nothing to me.For some bizarre reason,I can't stand girls who overly dress in the most ridiculous colors imaginable to humankind.
I tend to gravitate my conversations with people who have similar interest as myself.That is the only way I can guarantee striking up a sensible conversation with someone else without making myself an idiot or trying too hard for attention.Which, brings me to the question at hand.
When starting a conversation with someone;
Do you tend to force an entirely new topic on them,hoping for some sort of response ?
Or
Do you prefer to keep quite and hope the other person thinks of something interesting to talk about before you do?
Or
Are you psychic and for some bizarre reason,know exactly what to talk about almost all the time ?
In my case,I prefer to shut up and listen.I like listening.I like observing people and then drawing key topics for communication with them.I will then sort these topics into an order of importance before deciding if the person, whom I will be communicating shortly with,has any interest whatsoever in listening to my dribble about god know what.
Most of the time,I can't think of anything.As much as I like a good nice conversion,I prefer not to talk about redundant shit that nobody will take notice of and making an idiot out of myself.
Or maybe I am in denial and I am hopelessly a very dull and boring person who hates social interaction and wants to dance to Britney Spears naked while stabbing myself with a very blunt toothpick screaming, "Ooh Laa Laa".
Epic Fail.
3 comments:
Hi Raj, just like you, I prefer to keep quiet and listen before striking up an initial conversation with someone new whom I just got to meet. It is really interesting to see that just by observing for a short while, you can easily tell what kind of person he/she is. It saves energy on your side too, so why not?
i comment in reference to that quote from Ella Wheeler Wilcox. its so true for me that often i try so hard to flatter and please are those who are hardly related to me.
yet for my parents, i treat them like strangers, constantly intruding into my space. in retrospection, i do feel very guilty. My parents love me the best(without doubts!), yet i don't even say "thank you", or "good morning" or even "i love you!" i'd rather express it with actions(although i know they would love to hear me)
words just don't come easily for me with my parents. however i can talk about almost everything under the sun with my friends.
oh.. i will change to become a better son..
When meeting people for the first time I do not really like to talk . Simply because I just can't think of anything to say to the other person . So , I tend to keep quiet and listen too , hoping to find something common so start a conversation with .
Also , I kind of like observing people , as I feel that the non-verbal cues people give can tell us quite a bit on how the person is like . But since it is left to our own interpretation , what we interpreted can be really way off from the actual meaning .
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